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The Top 5 actions representing Infidelity

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Unlocking the Secrets

By IANSlife

May 21, 2023 (IANSlife) Infidelity can be a devastating event for those affected. It's a subject that has sparked a lot of debate over time and contributed to the dissolution of numerous marriages and relationships. The concept of infidelity has evolved over time, though, blurring the boundaries between what is acceptable and what is not.

In March 2023, Gleeden, the first women-led discreet dating app, conducted research on India's shifting views on marriage, adultery, and other cultural conventions. The study, conducted in February 2023 by the renowned international market research and public opinion specialist Ipsos, polled 1,503 married Indians between the ages of 25 and 50 from Tier 1 and Tier 2 cities. The study uncovered some of the most popular and recent love customs that Indians are embracing, including infidelity.

“More and more couples are starting to reject the idea of conventional monogamous partnerships, embracing a new idea of a relationship that is able to give them the flexibility to explore their sexuality. The shift in perspective on relationships in Indian society is a good example of the country's acceptance of individuality and personal autonomy. Contrary to popular opinion, a recent study revealed that Indians have a strong propensity for exploration, with over 60 percent of them having tried swinging and other unconventional forms of dating,” says Sybil Shiddell, Gleeden, an extramarital dating app, India’s country manager. The survey clearly demonstrates how Indians are far from conventional and enjoy experimenting and self-expressing in the bedroom, frequently in tandem with their partners."

  • Switching Up the Sheets

Infidelity is often indicated by the act of engaging in sexual intercourse with someone other than one's partner, which can take the form of a one-night stand or a full-blown affair outside of the relationship. The  survey results indicate that 39 percent of women have had thoughts of engaging in sexual activity with someone other than their partner. In particular, the survey found that 52 percent of women from Kolkata, 42 percent from Delhi, and 40 percent from Mumbai have expressed interest in such activities, while 40 percent from Ludhiana, 39 percent from Jaipur, and 38 percent from Ahmedabad have also indicated that they have considered or acted on infidelity.

  • Swingin' Solo but outside the Relationship Box

Infidelity can take on different forms, including platonic relationships outside of the existing partnership. This involves engaging romantic moments with someone other than your current partner, such as sharing deep conversations, tender touches, or emotionally private experiences. Surprisingly, the survey found that 46 percent of men are inclined towards seeking this kind of connection outside of their official relationships. Additionally, individuals aged 36-50 years old display a higher inclination towards this behaviour, with 48 percent falling in this category. Moreover, different cities show varying rates of infidelity, including a staggering 52 percent in Kolkata, 38 percent in Delhi, 40 percent in Mumbai, 44 percent in Kochi, 45 percent in Ludhiana, and 40 percent in Ahmedabad.

  • When Forbidden Temptations Meet Virtual Connections

In today's world, a large number of people engage in online flirting using various communication methods such as text messaging, chat, and email. Virtual flirting involves activities like sexting, sending flirty emojis, and exchanging intimate messages with individuals who are not one's current partner. According to the survey, 36 percent of women and 35 percent of men are drawn towards virtual flirting. The statistics reveal that 34 percent of people from Mumbai, 35 percent from Delhi, and 32 percent from Kolkata fall into Tier 1 cities. In Tier 2 cities, 35 percent of respondents from Kochi, 31 percent from Ludhiana, and 29 percent from Indore have revealed some astounding results.

  • Getting your Flirt on

Flirting with somebody other than one's current partner in public could become for some another act of infidelity. This behaviour may involve sharing suggestive looks, making provocative comments, or even engaging in physical contact. Although flirting can start out as harmless amusement, it can quickly evolve into a more serious commitment. The results of a survey showed that 35 percent of males and 36 percent of females have engaged in this type of behaviour with somebody other than their current partner. The survey also revealed surprisingly high percentages of individuals from various regions who were caught flirting outside of their relationships: 34 percent from Kolkata, 35 percent from Delhi, 32 percent from Mumbai, 29 percent from Indore, 33 percent from Patna, and 45 percent from Guwahati.

  • Daydreaming of Delightful Debauchery

Engaging in fantasies involving someone other than one's current partner seems a very popular and harmless behaviour, especially if such fantasies involve dreaming of celebrities, pop stars and models. Statistics show that 33 percent of men and 35 percent of women have unapologetically admitted to fantasising about someone other than their partner. Furthermore, interesting regional variations in behaviour have emerged, with Kolkata (36 percent), Delhi (35 percent), Mumbai (34 percent), Ludhiana (37 percent), Jaipur (28 percent), and Indore (26 percent) displaying notable differences in this regard.


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