By Jenisha Shah
May 2, 2021 (IANSlife) You open your laptop only to find a bunch of emails which need to be replied. With that comes more work that needs to be completed within the shift of "working hours" (which keeps extending most of the time) while we work from home. To add to this mayhem are the unnecessary zoom meetings scheduled wherein you are expected to be a part of and contribute.
Does this sound familiar?
Bosses are of all types, and many people can relate to having a manager whose leadership style puts a strain on their daily life. Many of us have come across various types of dysfunctional bosses- the passive aggressive one who makes those unnecessary sarcastic comments and remarks in meetings, the micro-manager who wants to haunt you at every step of the project and changes/corrects every step. The abusive/aggressive one, who screams loudly to express their thought about everything you do. Or the stalker manager who checks on your every move at work – even when you take that much needed coffee break!
Rakesh (name changed for privacy purposes) shares that his boss wants him to be available after hours and only communicates with him through messaging/texting. He often disregards his ideas.
When you work for one of these bosses, you can feel like you’re being set up for failure. It can be quite difficult to defy an authority figure and even the idea of expressing your thoughts might feel unsafe and intimidating. Inspite of being confident on your viewpoints, it can still be anxiety provoking to not comply with the directions of your boss. Eventually, you may be more upset with yourself than you are with your boss because you’re caught between this conflict of appearing incompetent – and upsetting your boss by speaking up.
The easiest way out at that moment seems to be to seek greener pastures? Or is it that we could be wearing tinted glasses in order to feed that feeling of helplessness.
Hold on, take a pause understand the ways you could bring about a shift in this equation. Putting labels is not going to help to relate with your boss on a productive level.
So how then can one bring about a shift in the paradigm?
It is important to remember that you lead by example so be a good role model.
(Jenisha Shah, Psychologist and Outreach Associate at Mpower- the Centre, Mumbai, Therapeutic Movement Facilitator)
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